I am a person of structure. I work best when I know I have many things I need to do and my days are fully planned. It’s the pressure that get’s me going. When I don’t have much to do and I have lot of spare time, I get nothing done. That’s because I don’t have any daily habits that structure my day. I am living my life based on what comes from the outside. When I have to work I work, when I have things to do for school I do it. But these are all things that don’t come from me. And what I mean by that is that there are times when I don’t need to work or I don’t have anything to do for school, and at those moments I realize I don’t do much just for me. Of course, working and studying are things that I do to grow, but I want to achieve to do the little extra things.
Changing habits is always a challenge. You wouldn’t call something a habit if it was easy for you to change it. That is also why I want to do it. The hardest part is the beginning, and when it has become a habit it’s easy because it’ll be nothing strange to you. The things I want to change in my habits have to do with my health, relationships, and personal development.
I think health is something that always can be improved and is something that you should never compromise on.
- Drink more water. I am actually already working on this. I drink a lot of coffee and I know it makes you very dehydrated. So for every cup of coffee I drink, I drink a glass of water. Besides that I try to drink 2 liters of water a day. I carry a 1 liter bottle with me almost everywhere I go, and it makes it much easier to remember to drink enough water. I know that by the end of the day I should’ve finished two of those bottles. It’s something I’m working on already, but it can definitely be improved. I should be doing it without having to think about it.
- Meal plan. I used to be so good at this. I knew exactly when I was going to eat what. But lately I’ve been a little lazy with my groceries. I used to do them once a week, usually on Monday morning, and do groceries for the whole week. I never had to work that much throughout the week as I do now, and it’s not that I work too much, I’m just not used to it. Before, I had classes usually 3 days a week and just in the mornings, so I had all day to prepare my food for that evening and even for other days. Now I don’t have classes anymore and I work full days, which means I get home around 1830 and then have to start cooking. At that time I cannot be bothered to make a complicated meal or something that takes a little more time, so I quickly take the easier route. And as most of y’all know, easy is not always the healthiest. Although, I can say for sure I eat pretty healthily. It’s just that I need a bit more variation.
What I want to do is take a little more time on cooking in the beginning of the week which means planning ahead with my groceries, so I know for sure I have food in my fridge and don’t need to do any last minute grocery shopping or I don’t get tempted to order in food.
- Visit the GP more often. I am terrible at this. I always have little complaints that don’t sit well with me, but they always disappear after a while which makes me forget about it. After couple of weeks or months I start feeling the same things and I still don’t go to the doctors. The problem is that I always have the excuse of ‘It’ll go away by itself’ and ‘I don’t have time to go.’ I know, that’s not a good habit to have. So I need to change this.
- Getting up earlier. When I have to work I don’t start until around 0930 AM. That is not particularly an early start of the day. When I used to have early classes they started at 0845. I had to be out the door at the latest at 0830, and I usually take an hour to fully get ready, which means I would get up around 0730. I think that is a perfectly normal time to get up. Even when I have nothing to do that day, at least I can get the most out of the hours that I have. It literally is just a matter of setting that alarm and trying to resist the temptation of hitting that snooze button. Once I’m up, I’m up. And the first thing I do when I get up is jump in the shower. Once I’ve done that I’m ready to start the day.
So, my goal is to get up early every day, at least throughout the week. In the weekends I’d still try, but if I have anything like a party or a night out, I’m going to give myself those couple of extra hours of sleep. By getting up earlier I hope to be more productive and get more done in a day. I also think it’ll give me more energy which will help me be more motivated to do things, which are either productive or just for fun.
With relationships I don’t mean romantic relationships specifically. I am talking about relationships with people in general. And not even that. Maybe it doesn’t even have to be a relationship. I am more talking about how I am around other people and what I do for them. I want to focus on that more. I know it is important to think of yourself too, but you shouldn’t be selfish. Some things should come more naturally when it comes to interacting with others. I want others to feel appreciated by me. So, a couple of things I want to do more:
- Say please and thank you. I know, you’re probably thinking: Chantal, haven’t you learned anything about basic manners? Yes I have, don’t worry about that. I think my parents did an excellent job in that department. But I am talking about saying it more. We tend to forget to say ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ when it comes to the little things. I think it sometimes is the little things that matter. All the little kind things you do add up in the end. It shows you appreciate someone and you care for them.
- Talk to my family more. Since I have been living on my own in a different city than my family, I have gotten used to not having to talk to anyone. I don’t need company around me at all times to have a good day. In fact, I actually really enjoy my alone time. When I’ve had a busy day at work where I am constantly surrounded by people, I just want to come home to a space where I can have some alone time and where I can do nothing. However, it is not always the right thing to do. When I come home on the weekends I should make a little more effort into talking to my family, instead of always wanting my alone time.
This is maybe the most important thing I want to focus on. I have been struggling a little with keeping myself busy. I want to be productive as much as I can. The feeling of accomplishing basically anything that is productive and makes me feel like I worked on something, is one of the best feelings to me. But, to feel so good about myself there are some things I need to do better.
- Create a simple morning ritual. I already talked about getting up earlier, which I want to be part of my morning ritual, but I want to have a proper morning ritual. I own the book ‘The miracle morning’ and it is very inspirational. I haven’t finished reading it though, so I need to do that first before I decide on how I want my morning routine to look. I don’t think I am able to get up every day at 6 am. But the idea of having a whole hour to just focus on myself in the morning seems like something I would want to give a try. I really believe that taking the time in the morning to do everything purposefully is so much better than doing everything in a bit of a rush.
- Read more books. This is something I’ve been wanting to do this for so long already, but for some reason it never happens. I had a little period of time when I would read every night before I went to sleep, which really is a good way to end your day. Unfortunately I could not make it into a habit because I didn’t stick to doing it. I really want to try it again and make it a habit to read before I go to sleep. It’s also so much better than watching YouTube or Netflix, which I’d do on every other spare moment I have in the day. Reading in general is so good for your personal development. Knowledge is power is what they say, and I agree.
There are so many more things I can talk about, but I think this is enough for now. If you’ve made it reading this far into this post, I applaud you. I know it is a lot, but I really want to make an effort into changing some of my habits to be more productive and feel better.